Saturday, July 24, 2010

Non Mihi,Non Tibi,Sed Nobis


Once upon a time, there was a boy. Intelligent, caring, sensitive and ambitious. When he came of age, he fell in love with a girl who adored him with an equal intensity. Together, they fashioned for themselves a life of unparalleled harmony-a small piece of heaven removed from the cares of the world, filled with the ecstasy and exuberance that love inspires. As they grew older together, they unconsciously gave form to one of the most hauntingly beautiful romances ever.

But nothing lasts forever. And at the tender age of 37, the wife died during childbirth. Given his stature and his appeal, everybody expected the husband to find a new consort and move on with what remained of the day. But they had grossly undermined his love for her. So grief-stricken was he by her irrevocable absence that he almost gave up on life itself. His ambitions met with a premature demise, he barely ate and all the little pleasures which once had given him so much joy now merely served as reminders of a paradise lost forever. He aged overnight and paced endlessly in his disconsolate state, trying to comprehend why providence had chosen him for this tragedy. Why do we meet someone when fate has already decreed that we must part before the association bears its full fruition?

And then he remembered his promise to her-that he would not let the world forget about her, about them. As the Greeks said, “Non mihi, non tibi, sed nobis”. Not for you, not for me, but for us. Suddenly, gone was the morose frame of mind, the lethargy and the indolence. Replaced with a definite vision as it was, it gave him hope and a sense of purpose.

And thus started the construction of a memorial for his wife. It would take 20 long years before it was unveiled to the world but history stands testament that not a single day went by when the Emperor himself did not visit the site to personally supervise its progress. And thus was created the monument that Tagore so famously described as “a teardrop on the cheek of time”. The Taj Mahal. Not just India’s most famous cultural icon, not just a marvel in marble. A reminder. A reminder of one man’s undying love for a woman who had not been with him for over two decades.

That is the stuff love stories and fairytales are made of. Or so we would think. But then let us for a moment consider also the story of a man as far removed from Shah Jahan as can be imagined. A poor labourer in a small village in India’s poorest state of Bihar. Not in a bygone century but in this very century, infact in our own times.

The story starts again with a well-possessed boy falling in love with a girl and striving to give her more than he can reach for. They are happy together until the cruel hands of fate snatch her away forever. After the customary turpitude brought about by the bereavement, this husband too started pondering over why providence had been so unmerciful. His wife had been unwell for a long time and was undergoing continuous treatment at the nearby health centre. She had suffered paroxysms of pain in the past too but he had always been able to get her to the doctor in time. This last time, however, he had gotten there a little too late.

The reason was simple-between the village and the health centre stood a hill which doubled the travelling time. Had the hill been absent, she might have been saved. Armed with this clarity of vision, he knocked on the door of every official who could have sanctioned a road to be cut through the mountainside. And always, the answer was a sympathetic but firm no-the government could not afford to waste money on a needless project, and that too in the memory of an unaccomodated individual.

But they too had undermined his love for her. He did not have the wealth of an Emperor or the luxury of an empire at his disposal. What he did have was just four things-an undying love, a clarity of purpose, a shovel and a spade.

And thus started the construction of a memorial for his wife. Armed with his meagre tools and the ferocity of his determination, this one man started cutting away at the mountainside. Alone and single-handedly, he started his herculean task and kept at it doggedly till even the mountain made way for him and he was able to cut a road across it. By some mischievous quirk of fate, he too took 20 years to complete his labour of love. The government took due notice of his feat and the road was metalled soon thereafter. The Chief Minister of Bihar invited him for the inauguration of the road-a standing testimony to the ecstasy and exuberance that love inspires. Baba Dashrath Manjhi died soon thereafter.

The road still stands. A teardrop on the sands of time. Not just another macadam road in India’s forgotten hinterlands, not just another instance of asphalt on rock. A reminder. A reminder of one man’s undying love for a woman who had not been with him for over two decades.

"Absence diminishes small passions and increases great ones, as the wind blows out the candle and fans the bonfire"

22 comments:

  1. Wow! Awesome post.. Simple words meant the most powerful meaning.. I loved it man...

    "Absence diminishes small passions and increases great ones, as the wind blows out the candle and fans the bonfire"

    Great...

    I wish you a good luck

    Saravana Kumar - Last Wish

    Yours Frendly,
    Saravana Kumar M

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  2. AMAZING. Really inspiring and touching.

    You bring out the emotions prevalent in the characters very truthfully.

    A great piece of writing, a delight to read. Wish you good luck!

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  3. wonderful... loved the ending lines...

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  4. amazing..thrilled after reading..

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  5. just amazing sir....dis shows that "if u hav d love, u dnt need d money" :)

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  6. very touching...love can definitely concur it all!

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  7. Very very touching. A man moves mountains in memory of his true love.

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  8. @Saravana-thanks for the wishes; am glad you liked it !
    @AV-thanks-dnt knw if I could capture the emotions but both the stories ARE true.
    @Sundeep-:)-the ending lines are quite profound but very nebulous too !!

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  9. @Turbulent Mind-thanks ! N btw, you have a very intriguing name ! ;)

    @Adarsh-more than that, it shows that just because someone does not love you in the way you want them to, it doesn’t imply that they don’t love you with all they have got !

    @Pooja-concur or conquer? Either way, I concur with you !! ;)

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  10. @Shail- thanks !
    @Purba-just one query-why is it always the man who has to move mountains? And never the woman?? ;)

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  11. Beautifully narrated!!! I can feel the love the poor laborer had for his wife, I can visualize his determination before he started constructing the road and his satisfaction once it was complete.

    The revelation of the identity of the protagonist in the first story was a masterstroke. Absolutely loved it.

    Keep writing!!!

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  12. @Vikram-everyone knows the first story but surprisingly,even the second one is true. The protagonist passed away just a couple of years back,an old-world romantic in the purest sense of the term.
    And yes, thanks for your encouragement.

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  13. Brilliant........too good :),,,,,
    amazing ...just wish there was so much love in the world...
    n not the one thing called "Be Practical"

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  14. @Shikha-thanks !
    If we stop to cleanse the doors of our perception, we would realise that love exists in far greater potency, forms and abundance than can ever be imagined.
    But in this era of "Splitsvilla" and "Breaking News", expecting anyone to linger on beyond a cursory glance seems to be too much of an ask !

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  15. I had a friend tell me this story a long time ago. The one about Bihar. He is from Bihar, so yes, I had heard about it. Today, I read it again and remembered. Thank you for sharing a chunk of history with us.
    All the best!
    Cheers
    Hiyaa
    http://www.thedefinitivemeltingpot.com

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  16. I don't want to be a cynic, but how many poor laborers were required to build the Taj Mahal. I can't help but be a bit annoyed by grandiose monuments built by ridiculously rich people. I like the road builder better.

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  17. @Hiyaa-glad you liked it. But the Taj is no less when it comes to an enduring passion !

    @Paul-i agree with you when it comes to the ostentatious,and even arrogant, display of clout that the Taj symbolises.
    Yet, consider for a moment the sheer beauty of the monument as also the fact that it has no parallel in the world. There have been many other romances,many other memorials-but there is only one Taj !
    That,for me atleast,dullens the sting of ostentation by quite a measure.

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  18. CONGRATULATIONS, BRIJENDER!! Very happy to see this..

    Best Regards
    Renjith P Sarada

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  19. @Renjith-thanks a lot !
    Just visited ur blog,n it seems quite interesting !

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  20. I had missed out on this.. came after seeing the result.. full marks on winning.

    A very worthy write!

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  21. @Sadhogopal-thanks. Am glad you found it worthy.

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